By Wonsuh Song
When the MBTI personality test was trending, I tried taking it in both Korean and Japanese. Interestingly, the results came out completely different. It wasn’t just a language issue; I noticed that when speaking Japanese, I tend to be more passive and less assertive. I suspect this is influenced by Japan’s unique social atmosphere. Having lived in Japan for a long time, I’ve become accustomed to this culture, and I realize I’ve unconsciously adapted to it in many ways.
Today, I had another experience that reflected this “Japanese-ness.” While on the train, I was engrossed in the news on my phone when the foreign woman sitting next to me suddenly stood up. At first, I thought she was getting ready to get off, but to my surprise, she gave her seat to an elderly woman standing nearby. In nowadays Japan, where even young people rarely offer their seats—even in priority seating—this simple act of kindness left a strong impression on me.
Had this happened in Korea or another country, I might not have thought much of it. But in Japan, it felt unusual and striking. Her act made me reflect on myself: “Why didn’t I notice the elderly woman sooner? Should I have done the same?” Although I wasn’t sitting in a priority seat, her action made me pause and reconsider my own choices in that moment.
Japan has a way of subtly influencing not just its citizens but also the many foreigners living here. Even people who might not usually be so mindful of manners or consideration back home often adopt a more polite demeanor, bowing and showing respect while in Japan. I think this is a result of the unspoken social norms and pressure that permeate Japanese society. At times, this culture can feel stifling, as though everything is governed by rules and formalities. But on the other hand, this same environment creates a sense of stability. It’s rare to encounter people causing public disturbances, at least in visible, physical spaces. While some may act out online, in public spaces, the lack of overt disruptive behavior is something I’ve come to appreciate.
Seeing that foreign woman on the train today reminded me of the subtle charm of Japanese society. It’s a culture that blends a sense of restraint with a sense of security. I’ve realized that I, too, have grown used to this balance, even finding a mix of comfort and frustration within it.
After living in Japan for many years, I see how this culture has shaped me. Moments like today serve as a reminder to continually reflect and learn. Perhaps this is one of the strengths of Japanese society: its ability to quietly instill these values and lessons, even in the smallest of moments.
Wonsuh Song
Shumei / Waseda University lecturer
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